Switch-a-roo

It is amazing we get stuck on one brand of product or shopping at one location and really do not think much about trying something different.

For example, both of my children were/are "Huggies babies." In the same sense that some people prefer Target to Wal-Mart or vice versa. Last week, I had a coupon for a large box of diapers. So I purchased the Pampers brand because there were more diapers in the box than the Huggies brand. I must admit, the Pampers brand is a much better diaper.

For several nights, I was using the Pampers brand and when Tyler woke up in the morning, he was wet but not soaked. This morning, when I woke him up, his pajamas were soaked through with urine. At first, I thought there was an opening for a leak. Nope! The Huggies brand diaper is not as absorbent as Pampers.

It's amazing how something so simple can have a profound meaning. What I took away from this scenario is do not be resistant to change: it may be a good thing in the end. If nothing else, it will definitely be a learning opportunity.



Romans 12:2 (New Living Translation)

2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Slowly but Surely

So we are making progress. Last night, I locked the door and true to form, my child shuffled to my room. She tried to turn the knob a couple of times then began yelling out, "Mommy, Mommy."

I answered the door and carried her back to her bed. Laid her down and went back to sleep. This time, locking the door yet again.



Around 4am or so, NyCee attempted to come into my room. Only this time, she rubbed her little belly repeating, "I hungry Mommy, I hungry." I gently explained it was not time for breakfast and laid her back down in HER bed.Of course this time I laid down with her in her bed. Hey, cut a girl some slack. It was 4am and I had to get up in 45 minutes. HA! But, let's focus on the fact that progress is being made and she did not get in my bed last night.

Thankfully my son does not have this issue. I just put him in the crib with a cup of milk and off to sleepytown he goes: ALONE!

Lock Out

I was talking with my mentor about trying to figure out a way to get NyCee to sleep, continuously through the night, in her own bed. When bedtime commences, she falls asleep in her own bed. I do not have to coax her, lay with her, or anything along those lines.

But generally around 2 or 3 in the morning, I hear the scurry of her little feet heading towards my room. She no longer calls out my name as she just climbs in my bed on "her side" and falls right back asleep. At her age, she really does not need to sleep with me anymore. (Really, a baby does not need to sleep with a parent at any age, but moving along). Because she slept in the bed with me for nearly one (1) year, it made sense at first. Well, now it is time to put down my proverbial foot regarding this matter.

So, on the advice of my mentor, I locked my bedroom door. Well, in usual fashion NyCee proceeded to my room and when she couldn't get in, she yelled my name several times. I got out of bed and gently guided her back to her room. She went back to sleep and I went back to my room and went back to bed.

When I woke up this morning, guess where she was?


I guess in my head, I thought I would only have to lock the door once for her to get the message.

Family Road Trip

Yesterday evening, I had to make a quick errand run to Sam's club. As we were leaving the house, NyCee grabbed her teddy bears. She likes riding on the last seat of the minivan because it makes her feel like a "big girl."

As she was getting into the van, she placed the teddy bears on the empty seat. She then proceeded to get into her carseat and fasten her seat belt. I strapped buddy into his carseat and got ready to get into the driver's seat. All of a sudden, NyCee exclaims, "Mommy, teddy bear needs his seat belt." I stopped and thought to myself, "Seriously, am I going to strap teddy bears into a car seat?"

Free Fuel

Approximately two weeks I purchased a gift card at the grocery store near my house. Because I didn't plan to use it immediately, I threw it in my purse and went on my merry way.

Last week, I attempted to use the card and quickly realized it was not properly activated. Generally, I keep all receipts for a given period of time before throwing it in the trash. Of course I didn't follow that pattern this time around. I have the original sale receipt but not the activation receipt.

After all attempts to receive service at the store failed, I called customer service. The agent who accepted my call was very kind and understanding. He was unable to locate the transaction and advised me to fax the information to the number he provided.

As a gesture of good will, the representative advised I would receive $2.00 off my next gas purchase. (The company is still researching the sale of the gift card. I said, "Okay" and interpreted that to mean I would receive $.10 off a gallon.

I generally fill up the tank on Fridays for the following week. When I pulled up to the pump and inserted my "savings card" the sign read, Dayna Thompson your fuel discount is $2.00 off per gallon!" I received a full tank of gas absolutely free! How wonderful!?!?! That was quite the blessing!

Cast your bread upon the waters,
For you will find it after many days.
Ecclesiastes 11:1 (New King James Version)

Keeping the Faith

Please continue to pray for my cousin Cari's strength. She had a slight relapse but God is still the Great Healer.


Psalm 138 New Living Translation
A psalm of David.
1 I give you thanks, O Lord, with all my heart;
I will sing your praises before the gods.
2 I bow before your holy Temple as I worship.
I praise your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness;
for your promises are backed
by all the honor of your name.
3 As soon as I pray, you answer me;
you encourage me by giving me strength.
4 Every king in all the earth will thank you, Lord,
for all of them will hear your words.
5 Yes, they will sing about the Lord’s ways,
for the glory of the Lord is very great.
6 Though the Lord is great, he cares for the humble,
but he keeps his distance from the proud.

7 Though I am surrounded by troubles,
you will protect me from the anger of my enemies.
You reach out your hand,
and the power of your right hand saves me.
8 The Lord will work out his plans for my life—
for your faithful love, O Lord, endures forever.
Don’t abandon me, for you made me.

Birthday #3 - Weekend

Friday

NyCee's birthday morning started at 530a. The only difference this time was she climbed out of bed, walked into the living room and exclaimed, "Surprise Mommy. It's my birthday!"
Saturday

Unbeknown to NyCee, her father planned a trip out here to spend the weekend with her and join the birthday celebration. She enjoyed several piggyback rides and tumble time.

A lady from my church made the birthday cake. Yes, it's Dora again but she is not really into any other characters. The cake was absolutely delicious.

I just threw in this picture because my aunt send emails asking for me to post pictures of myself.


A few of her church friends came to the party. Of course, there was pizza, soda, candy and games galore. All the kids enjoyed themselves.

I had to keep NyCee from licking the icing off the cake before I cut it and gave her a piece. I sat the cake on the table in front of her, turned around and she was eating icing!

AS the night came to close, NyCee was still full of energy.

We ended the evening with a Cinderella dress up fashion show.

She and her friends had a great time. You will notice Tyler is not in any of the birthday party pictures as he was not in attendance. He stayed home because he was coughing and feeling a little under the weather.

Not a nature lover

Despite the cute smile on Tyler's face, this boy has a set of lungs that can scream like no body's business. He loves to be outside and will crawl on the hard ground all day long, if allowed. But put the boy on soft, cushy grass and he screams bloody murder! He tries to push himself away from it and really gets upset. It's actually funny.

We went to the park this afternoon when I got off work and he played in the grass for a minute. He touched it and of course tried to eat it. So maybe he is adjusting.

"Set Me Free Why Don't Cha' Mom!"

That little face says (or in this case) screams it all.

Stand He Does

I had to take this picture with my phone so the quality is a little poor.

I tried to install the CD for the new camera but it is defective. Now you would say, "Just return it to the store and exchange it." I did. And I spent nearly 1 hour on the phone with technical support for assistance. Now, I have to go and return the camera and purchase a different brand. I have to somehow figure out how to do this before Friday, NyCee's birthday.

Weekly Update

Okay, so I finally bought a new camera that I just removed from the box. Now, I just have to install the software on the computer. I am working on it.

So, I was at church a few weeks ago and spoke to a guy I see all the time. To me, he is just a cool dude. I usually give him a high five when I see him. No biggie-do. But he threw me a little off balance when he called me GORGEOUS! I rode that for like a week. After having two kids and a roller coaster of a year, I was like "WOW! Someone thinks I am gorgeous. That's cool."

But he did it again! Dude, yeah, I'm hot! HA! HA!

Let me think what else is going on?

NyCee's birthday is this week. Pretty exciting. I realized for the past three (3) years, NyCee has had a birthday in a different state. GA, MI, and now AZ. Well, as long as she is under my care, the remainder of her childhood birthdays will be in AZ unless we are on a family vacation.

Tyler is pulling himself up on the furniture. He is still doing the army crawl but I think that is because he prefers that position. He knows how to crawl. Hey, maybe he wants to have a military career.

My goals this week:
CLEAN MY HOUSE!!!!!!
Finish a book I started last week.
Receive a wonderfully expected surprise!
And install the CD to the camera on my computer.

Well-Rested

Two Things

1. Because of my work schedule, I have learned to cook the meat for dinner at night. Generally, I follow that same principle for Saturday and Sunday. Last night, I put the chicken in the crock pot. Woke up at 530a only to discover I forgot to turn on the crock pot.

2. Arizona does not honor daylight savings time. What does that mean? Well, we do not spring forward like the majority of the country will this weekend. (There are other areas of the country that do not honor this principle either.)

For those in the eastern time zone, the time difference becomes three (3) hours. I.e., 10a in Detroit is 7a in Phoenix.

For those in the central time zone, the time difference becomes two (2) hours. I.e., 9a in Chicago is 7a in Phoenix.

Why is this important? Because inevitably, someone will call me at 0-dark thirty hours not realizing the time difference. Even though I am publishing this information on the world wide web, I guarantee you, someone will call me at a ridiculously earlier hour and then apologize for doing so. It's all good. I will still love you. I will not converse with you at that hour but I will still love you. ((smile))

My Little Dancer

On Thursdays, NyCee has started taking dance lessons. The studio offers 50 minute sessions which includes: tap, tumble and ballet. Thursday was NyCee's first lesson and Lorie captured this photo:

One of the downsides is the class is from 1:00-1:50p. Smack dab in the middle of nap time. Lorie mentioned NyCee was a little exhausted after the class but all-in-all, she did very well.

Sporadic

I realize the postings are sporadic lately but honestly, there isn't much to write about.

Tyler hasn't started walking yet. He pulls himself up onto his knees and will stand up if being held.

NyCee continues to develop and is a fast learner.

As for me, I am trying to decide when I will return to school and find more permanent living arrangements for me and the kids.

Honestly, I don't have the time to sit on the computer in the evenings.

I was switched to a different team today at work. So my works hours reverted back to 8-5p because I am no longer assigned to the east coast region.

That is the down side. The positive side is that I now have one of the best seats in my department. My desks faces the mountains and the view is gorgeous.

But now, I get home after 6p. By time I feed the kids dinner, give them baths, read bible versus, put them in the bed, wash the dinner dishes, attempt to do laundry (one of my favorite things), and prepare for the next day: I am exhausted. I still have to get in my evening study time.

So forgive the sporadic posts. I will continue to write because people have indicated they do not want me to stop. But the frequency will probably be once or twice a week.

Sleepytime Peek-a-boo

I guess he was playing peek-a-boo in the middle of the night because I have no idea how he managed to get the cover around his head.

*Now, I no longer but the blanket on him at night.*

"Where are you?"

"Mommy, Where are you?" As I am awakened out of a deep sleep to the sound of my child's voice bellowing through the house.

"I am in the bed NyCee." (Really, at 230a where else would I be?)

Shuffle, shuffle, shuffle.

"Mommy, that's my pillow." As she attempts to climb into my bed and claim her teriotory.

"Would you like mommy to scoot over so that you can get in the bed with me?"

"Yes ma'am"

5 minutes later: sound asleep

1/2 way there

I caught Tyler trying to pull himself up in his crib. He just has to figure out how to get his legs to cooperate.

Come and Gone

My mother came to Phoenix for a visit. I did not get one picture while she was in town. Partly because my camera is broken. The other part is we were busy. I had to work everyday and she made plans to visit family members.

Although the week flew by, we enjoyed her company and she enjoyed the warm weather.

May Cause Drowsiness -- REALLY?!?!?

When a bottle of medication is labeled, "May cause drowsiness" generally that statement is true. While I recognize side effects occur differently in individuals, I did not expect hyperactivity.

Tyler was prescribed a pain medication after his surgery to be given on a "as needed basis." Well, I didn't fill the prescription until late yesterday evening because he seemed fine. He was a little sleepy but not fussy or in pain.

Around 8pm, he was just done. He'd had a long day and I thought the numbing medication had finally worn off because he just cried and cried. But the pharmacy advised it would have taken 1 and 1/2 hours for the prescription to be ready. I just decided to forgo the wait and took the kids home.

I picked up the medication this morning and then the kids and I went to run a few errands. When we returned home, I gave Tyler a dose of the medication before lunch time. My thought was if he would be sleepy from the medication, then he needed to take it early as to not affect his bedtime. The dose was given around 1130a.

He was so hyper. Nap? What nap? He was on overdrive. He played in the crib for about 2 hours before he wanted to get out. I finally just took him out while I combed NyCee's hair.

I was called into work in the Nursery at church. So, I arrived around 445p and worked until 1030p. Tyler did not go to sleep at all. He just played and played and played. He fell asleep around 400p and slept for about 20 minutes because I had to wake him up so that I could go to work.

He finally tuckered out in the car during the 5 minute car ride home. I put on his pjs and now he is sound asleep.

As for the medicine, well, I just hope no one was injured when I pitched it out the window! Just kidding. It is still in the cabinet but Tyler will not partake of anymore of it.

Under the Knife

Tyler's surgery went better than expected. Well, that's not entirely true. I expected it to go very smoothly as I had been praying about it for weeks. But it was quick. He was such a big boy during the check-in process. All the nurses just cooed over him and spoke of how adorable he was.

After signing all the necessary documents, the nurse took him to the surgical area. Both doctors came out and spoke to me in a very polite and understanding manner.

I went to the lobby to get an iced coffee and danish. I returned to the waiting room, made a couple of phone calls, sat down to make a grocery list and the next then I know, the doctor is telling me the surgery went well.

Approximately 10 minutes later, I was paged to the recovery room. When I arrived, Tyler was awake and smiling. Several nurses commented about how well behaved he was.


He cried briefly when he saw me but I gave him a bottle of milk and the world was once again a wonderful place. He slept off and on throughout the day. But overall, he was a very good boy. He handled the surgery like a big fella!

Abounding in Blessings

After work, I rushed in the house to get dinner into the kids' bellys before heading to church. While getting dinner ready, I received a call from the car dealership. The representative advised there was an error in the price of the vehicle on the bill of sale. He proceeded to tell me the car was over priced so I would need to come in and resign the documents. He further advised the terms of the loan remained the same but due to the adjustment of the car price, my loan had to be restructured.

As a result, my car payment was lowered and the overall amount financed is $1000 less than the original amount.

"I am abounding with the favor of you Lord and I am full of your blessings."
Deut 33:23)

So Silly

I had to laugh at myself today while driving to work.

Because Smurfette was old, I would drive in the far right lane. I now know that she was moving so slowly because the transmission was going out. I just thought she didn't have as much spunk because she was 14 years old.

Well, Fabulous has a whole lotta spunk. So much so, I find myself having a lead foot.

This morning after dropping off the kids at daycare, I entered the freeway and immediately made my way over to the far left lane. In my new car, I can cruise in whatever lane I choose!

A Ram in the Bush

And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.
Galatians 6:9 (Amplified Bible)

First, GOD ROCKS!!!! Okay, now that I have gotten that out! As you know, Smurfette has passed on to that great junkyard in the sky. But God is so faithful because I did not miss one day of work. Nor did she give out on the freeway or side of the road. I was never stranded with or without the kids. God is so faithful.

Yesterday, I went out to look for a new car. I called my dad from the dealership because I haven't purchased a new car in about five (5) years and I really needed his help. Initially, I looked at a Toyota Corolla but after some research my dad advised it was not worth the money. Plus, it was just too darn small.

But while at the dealership, not ONE salesperson acknowledged me. Even my dad commented about it because he had a good 30 or 40 minute conversation as I walked around the lot. So, I got in the car and left. I was determined to not return to that lot. I figured no one wanted my money.

Today after church, I arrived home and there was a message on the machine from a representative of the dealership. I thank her for the call but advised that I would not be returning to the location. She connected me to her supervisor.

I explained the situation to the supervisor and explained that I did not see anything that I wanted so I would look elsewhere. (I found a minivan at another dealership that I had planned to visit on Monday.) I explained this to the manager and he told me he would meet or beat the price of the vehicle that I wanted because he didn't have that model. So I made an appointment to go to the dealership and look at the minivan in stock.

The finance manager was waiting for me and was very kind. He apologized again for the poor service at the other dealership and showed me the minivan. I LOVED IT! It was better than the one I planned to drive the next day. The seats fold down into the floor creating a cargo space without actually removing the seats. Also, there is wood grain on the dashboard, CD and cassette (required for my MP3 connection), power everything, and more. The best part, I got it for $2,000 below sticker price and 2% off my interest rate! Now you understand why I started out with the statement GOD ROCKS!

In January, the heat stopped working in the explorer. So I just put blankets in the car and bundled up the kids. I wore my mittens and prayed all the way to work. In September (one of the hottest months of the year) the air stopped working. But even then, I would run errands early and return home.

God just keeps blessing me. I found a nanny for my children which cuts my monthly daycare expense in half. My car payment is actually very decent. God is so faithful.

Presenting, my 2007 Chrysler Town and Country Mini-Van, whose name is Fabulous,(really, did you expect anything else?):

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
Hebrews 13:8 (New King James Version)

All That Remains

This license plate is all that remains of Smurfette: my 1995 Ford Explorer.


I was disappointed that the car could not be donated to the breast cancer foundation. Because the transmission was removed, the foundation would not accept the car. However, God always as a back-up plan. With the help of a friend, I was able to donate the car to a Christian organization. Something good resulted from my loss.

While in conversation with a friend, I said, "Smurfette was on life support and finally died." To which she replied, "Good! She's been in hospice for months!" HA!

The tow truck driver showed up at the transmission repair shop about 2 hours earlier than I had arranged. Thankfully, the gentleman that I had been working with was kind enough to remove the plate and released the vehicle even though I hadn't paid for the work yet. He trusted me to come in at 1:15p, as I had arranged, to pay the balance. And I did.

Initially, I was sad because I didn't get a picture of Smurfette before she was taken away. But I see God's hand in that as well. I am glad that she was picked up and I was not there. The explorer was a piece of my past. This year is all about moving forward in Christ Jesus.

So, what am I going to do about a new car? Well, I will do what King Jehoshaphat did: while surrounded by armies on three sides, he "set himself to seek the LORD, and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah." 2 Chronicles 20:3 (Holman Christian Standard Bible).

"Then Jehoshaphat stood in the assembly of Judah and Jerusalem in the LORD's temple before the new courtyard. He said:
LORD God of our ancestors, are You not the God who is in heaven, and do You not rule over all the kingdoms of the nations? Power and might are in Your hand, and no one can stand against You. Are You not our God who drove out the inhabitants of this land before Your people Israel and who gave it forever to the descendants of Abraham Your friend?" 2 Chronicles 20:5-7 (Holman Christian Standard Bible).

"This is what the LORD says: 'Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God's." 2 Chronicles 20: 15.

Saturday Outing

The kids and I went to the Phoenix Zoo this morning with a woman I met at church named Lorie and her three children: Kayla (12), Olivia (3), and JD (2).

We started out at the carosel ride and NyCee was not to keen on the ride at first. The animals were way too big but she saw Olivia getting on one so she decided she would try it. All was cool until the ride was set in motion and the animals went up and down. Lorie had to hold on to her the entire time and remind her that it was safe.

Of course when the ride ended, she wanted to ride again - isn't that always the case?

The Phoenix Zoo is really very well kempt and easy to maneuver. NyCee and Olivia had the most fun running down the hills.

As we walked around we made it to the Fisher Price play area where NyCee and JD were in heaven. What is it with kids who'd rather play with the sand than the toy sculptures?

Tyler slept most of the morning.
I have probably lost 5 lbs from all the walking - not complaining.
It was a beautiful 76 degrees today. The sky was clear and blue. It was a little chilly but with all the walking, we warmed up quickly.

To God Be the Glory

The deal for a new mini van did not pan out.

The transmission is kerplunky on my truck.

I don't know what I am going to do. But I know that God has provided for me and my children all this time. He knows that I have to go to work. He knows that I need a car to do that. Because He parted a sea and the Israelites crossed on dry land and then closed the sea which drowned their enemies, He will provide transportation for me. And when He does, it will be in such a way that only He gets the glory!


So I'm not giving up. How could I! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on me, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without His unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for me. There's far more here than meets the eye. The things we see now are here today, gone tomorrow. But the things we can't see now will last forever.

2 Corinthians 4:17-18 (The Message)

Familiar Scene

NyCee at nine (9) months old:

Tyler at nine (9) months old:

The difference:

NyCee screamed and screamed until she finally feel asleep in that position.

Tyler plays quietly in his crib during nap and bedtime and then just falls asleep.

With training, parenting does get easier. The first kid is the test case. HA!

Slight Pang of Guilt

Tonight, I decided I would have a date night. After all, I deserve some alone time. Plus I believe it is healthy. With that noted, I went to have a pedicure and a manicure. This was really a treat for me as it has been nearly two (2) years since I have been to the nail spa.

There was a time when that was a bi-monthly routine. But other things became a priority.

As I walked into the spa, I felt a little pang of guilt. I began to think, "Really Dayna, this $40 could be used for something else." But I really couldn't think of anything that was needed with the $40.

I went shopping for the kids' summer clothes last week. (It will be in the 80s beginning next month. Again, this is why I traveled through the wilderness to get to the Promised Land-Ha!) But seriously, as a single mom, I am constantly thinking of my kids and planning ahead. I very rarely buy myself anything anymore.

While I recognize that is not healthy, it's my reality. First God, then my babies. But after wrestling with my mind that it's okay for me to spend the $40, I sat in the chair and relaxed. It's amazing how much more you appreciate something when it is gone and then restored.
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On a different thought, I was trying to decide what to do with Smurfette when I take delivery of the new mini-van. (A few months ago I picked out a name for my new car. Her name is Fabulous. Because God is just so tremendously FABULOUS!) Anyway, I didn't want to sell or trade-in the car. So I surfed the Internet and found the perfect solution.

As many of you know, my cousin Cari is a breast cancer survivor. Additionally, two of my co-workers at my weekend job are survivors as well. Because this illness has touched the lives of people dear to me, I support breast cancer research anyway possible. I buy products with the pink ribbon if it's an item I need and I only buy breast cancer stamps from the post office. Yes, these things may be slightly more expensive but the proceeds benefit thousands of woman and their families.

With that said, Smurfette will be donated to cars for breast cancer.

Be generous: Invest in acts of charity. Charity yields high returns.

Don't hoard your goods; spread them around.
Be a blessing to others.
Ecclesiastes 11:1-2a (The Message)

"Did you know?"

"Hi. Did you know that Martin Luther King was black and he was shot?"

I was greeted with that question this afternoon. It was asked by my 7 or 8 year neighbor.

I replied, "Yes, I did."

I smirked to myself as I saw her mother turning beet red.

Kids really say the darnest things.

Tuckered Out

Dinner time + quiet crib play time + a warm bath + an 8 ounce bottle =


one tuckered out little boy!

Tyler had his 9 month check up yesterday. He is a perfectly, healthy, little boy. He didn't cry when he had to get a finger poke or one immunization shot. The nurse commented, "Wow, he is such a good boy!"
I was proud of my little man. He didn't even flinch when the nurse administered both shots. He just wanted to play with the blue band-aid that was placed on his finger.

Excitement At Every Turn

My gosh, today was a very exciting day.

The Arizona Cardinals are going to the Superbowl for the first time--ever! In honor of that victory, the EFC (I think that's correct) trophy was on display in the lobby of my office building.

The first Black Man took the oath for the presidency. (While I do not agree with many of President Obama's positions, I consider it a honor to be witness to such a historic event.)

Tyler almost sat up by himself from the laying down position. He sits up by himself but has not yet learned how to raise himself up to the sitting position. But he is getting there.

I picked out the color for my new Mini Van. Yep! That's right. I am a mini-van mama. When I post the pictures, you will be amazed. God is so awesome and has blessed me so much. My mini-van is like the James Bond version of all mini-vans. I just have to wait for delivery. YIPEE!!!!!

And the cake topper of the day: it was a beautiful 79 degrees, clear blue sky with hand painted cloud whisps against the mountain backdrop.

You turned my wailing into dancing;
you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,

that my heart may sing to you and not be silent.
O LORD my God, I will give you thanks forever.
Psalm 30:11-12 (NIV)

Mobility Begins

Yesterday, Tyler transitioned from rolling all around the room to the army crawl. He hasn't gotten up on his knees yet; rather, he pulls himself to his destination using his arms.

Crawling will follow shortly.

Oops!

There are times when routine is a problem. Case in point:

Yesterday, I stopped to put gas into the truck. For whatever reason, the machine would not accept my debit card. So I had to go to the window and pay for the gas.

I returned to my vehicle, pumped the gas, got back in the car and pulled away.

I arrived at church, exited the vehicle and noticed the gas door was still open. I looked on top of the truck and the gas cap was missing.

My normal routine is to unscrew the gas cap, sit it on top of the truck, pump the gas and while I am waiting for the receipt to print, I secure the gas cap in place.

Because I had to divert from the routine, my sequence of steps were out of order. Thus resulting in the need for me to stop, after I picked up the kids from daycare, at the auto parts store to replace the gas cap.

Okay, so really I can try and blame it on routine but in reality, I should have doubled checked to be sure the cap was on. Needless to say, that will not happen again.

Something to do

Like my son who decided to stick his legs through the crib bars, on Saturday nights- I just need something to do. So, I still work my second job.

I do not work the job for the money. I write that because my friend called and asked how in the world do I manage to do all the things that I do with two small kids. I replied, "God's grace."

A couple of weeks ago, I sat down and wrote a letter of resignation to the nursery director because I was working seven (7) days a week. That is unhealthy. But I really enjoying working at the church on Saturday nights.

I am well cared for, which is truly a blessing. Therefore, I do not need to work the weekend job. I just do it because I need something to do on Saturdays nights.

I have modified my schedule so that I only work two (2) weekends a month. That was my compromise. Working two weekends a month allows me to continue doing the work that I enjoy and having some free time to myself for a few hours.

So, like Tyler who sticks his legs through the crib bars when he needs something to do; I continue to work my second job just to have something to do.

"Where do you live?"

As a project in school, NyCee had to select where she lives. The choices: an apartment, a house, or a castle. NyCee's choice:

A CASTLE! SWEET! That girl dreams big!

"As it is written, I have made you the father of many nations. [He was appointed our father] in the sight of God in Whom he believed, Who gives life to the dead and speaks of the nonexistent things that [He has foretold and promised] as if they [already] existed." Romans 4:17 Amplified Bible

Un-fabulous report

I arrived at daycare to pick up the kids after work. One of NyCee's teachers asked if I had spoken with the other teacher. I replied, "No, I have not." Immediately, I am not pleased with that question.

In speaking with the "lead" teacher, I learned that NyCee decided to turn up her nose, stick out her tongue, and defy the teacher's instructions. Now, I am definitely NOT pleased.

Under no circumstances do I allow tantrums, sassy talk, or disrespectful behavior. I had to refrain from laying my hands on her in the director's office.

NyCee apologized to her teacher and I explained my position and that I support a time-out for the exhibited behaviors.

When we arrived home and I was getting NyCee out of the truck, she looked up and said, "I am sorry mommy for school." I thanked her for apologizing and reminded her of my expectations.

I was mortified to have to speak to the teacher about my child's behavior. This is not a situation to be repeated.

First Name Basis

"Dayna, may have have something to drink please?"

At first glance, there is nothing wrong with that question. However, when asked by one's two year old daughter, it tends to throws one for a loop.

While I recognize that my child is highly intelligent, I am trying to figure out when she learned my first name.

2008: An Amazing Year!

Wow! What can I say about 2008? For me, it was a year of great growth.

Tyler was added to my family.

A MBA was added to my list of degrees.

A new job was added to my life.

A new home in the city I want to live in.

A WONDERFUL new church where I am growing spiritual.

I think back on the year and it's all positive. The "up" moments definitely out weigh the "down" times.

All day, I have had a great sense of joy and excitement. I just know that even better things are coming in 2009. Dreams becoming realities. Prayers being answered. Exponential growth in my career.

2009 will be absoulutely FABULOUS! I encourage you to take some time to reflect on all the blessings that God has bestowed on your life. Everything may not have followed your exact plan, but trust and believe in God's plan for your life.

So as we wait for the bells to ring and confetti to fall, lift your hands and voices to the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords and thank Him for His goodness and mercy which have brought you this far.

Hallelujah! Praise God in his holy house of worship,
praise him under the open skies;
Praise him for his acts of power,
praise him for his magnificent greatness;
Praise with a blast on the trumpet,
praise by strumming soft strings;
Praise him with castanets and dance,
praise him with banjo and flute;
Praise him with cymbals and a big bass drum,
praise him with fiddles and mandolin.
Let every living, breathing creature praise God!
Hallelujah!

Psalm 150 (The Message)

Photo with Santa

Instead of taking NyCee and Tyler to the mall for a picture with Santa, I was able to take them to my job. It was a very nice event because only the children of HR employees were allowed in the event.

Prior to talking to Santa, NyCee attempted to have a tantrum because she was told to "wait her turn." Well, she didn't take that news kindly and that resulted in a trip to the bathroom. (I am sure you can deduce what happened next.)

Once we returned to the room, NyCee was on her best behavior. Co-worker commented about how cute she was and well-behaved. She grew more and more excited as "her turn" to see Santa approached.

Finally the big moment arrived.

"Mommy, Santa! Santa."

"Yes, pumpkin cake. It is Santa. Say Hi."




After all of that, she sat on Santa's lap and cried her head off. Go figure!

(Sorry the pictures are so small. I haven't quite figured out all the bells and whistles of my scanner. Heck, I just figured out how to scan the picture.)

The Best Christmas Ever!...So Far....

This morning around 1:30a NyCee came into my room holding a box of crayons. (As a child, my parents used to leave the Christmas tree illuminated. I did the same thing so I am sure it drew NyCee's attention. I did not get her initial reaction as I was sound asleep.) But once in my room,

She said, "Mommy, look."

I replied, "What's that baby?"

"Come here. Come see, Mommy." As she proceeded into the living room.

When I followed behind her, she said, "Ta-dah! Christmas."

She began to jump up and down saying, "Dora. Dora." So we sat down and opened a few of the gifts and I let her play for about 30 or 40 minutes. Then, we went back to bed. I had to let her sleep in my bed with her new Dora pillow as a bribe to get some sleep.



Almost simultaneously, NyCee tapped me on the head asking if she could play while Tarisa was sending a text message asking if we were awake. The time was around 715a. I managed to get myself out of the bed, wash my face, brush my teeth and lead NyCee to the living room. Tyler was still sleeping soundly. (He woke up around 530a but I quickly changed his diaper and gave him a bottle so that he would go back to sleep.)


Around 800a, both kids were up and playing. Although NyCee played with Tyler's toys, she brought them over to him saying, "Here buddy. Play with this one."

By 1130a, she was pooped. So, I laid her down for a nap as we were invited over to Lorie and Dan's (a couple from my church) for dinner. Lorie and Dan have agreed to serve as a mentor family for NyCee and Tyler. To me, it is important they see a Christian family unit. In turn, I will serve as a mentor to their 12 year old daughter Kayla.

We enjoyed dinner at Lorie's and then returned home around 630p. I was even blessed with several gifts from friends who were single moms in the past and wanted me to have gifts to open today as well. I am constantly amazed at how God shows his love for me.

Our night ended with Tyler pooping all up his back and on the bed sheets--sweet! But thankfully, it was before his bath. Then, I popped a big bowl of popcorn and the kids and I watched a Care Bear Movie NyCee received as a Christmas gift.

It was cold and rainy here today. (Temps in the low 50s) But it was truly the best Christmas Ever--so far.

The Sky is the Limit

While sitting here preparing to be Santa Claus, I was thinking about how far I have come in just one year. But as I deleted the link for my school from my favorites section, I thought of my parents.


My father completed his Master's degree about 3 or 4 years ago. I believe he started this drive for education in my family. While it took him, literally 20 years, to complete his undergraduate studies, he completed it nonetheless. Given the fact that he had a family to support, he could not just attend school on a regular basis. Somehow, my mother always "found" the money to aid in his educational pursuit and now today, he is living off the harvest of his investment.

My mother decided to return to school when Tarisa was about 16 years old. She realized that in two years she would no longer be just a mom and decided to pursue a career. She graduated from Wayne County Community College with a 4.0 gpa which earned her a presidential scholarship to complete her undergraduate work. Few people know that was the second full scholarship my mother received from Wayne State University. But because of Talisha's illness, she was unable to take advantage of the opportunity the first time. But when we are faithful to God, He always restores the sacrifices we make. This past summer, my mother completed her Master's degree and is now working on her Education Specialist degree which will propel her into the administrative aspect of education.

In June 2006, I began working on my undergraduate degree-again. I completed 1/2 of the program when I lived in Chicago, IL. But I needed 90 credits to finish the degree. My undergraduate degree was conferred in September 2007. As of Monday, December 22, 2008, all final grades have been posted and I will receive my Master of Business Administration Degree in Human Resources Management. Again, I completed the degree in 15 months. My final g.p.a is a 3.8. Initially, I was slightly disappointed with the "B" but I am not defined by my grades. And given all that I have endured over the past year, I am pretty darn proud of myself! Praise God for His strength and joy which helped me to stay the course with my eyes on Him.



Tarisa completed her Associate of Arts degree in San Francisco, CA and is now in school to complete her Bachelor's degree.

Boonie has completed several certification courses over that past few years and holds various certificates. Recently, she has enrolled in a cosmetology program to upgrade her certifications.

Since completing my degrees, I have truly come to understand that ABSOLUTELY ANY THING is possible. If I can think it, with God, I can achieve it!

Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”
Mark 9:23 (New King James Version)

"Merry Christmas Lights"

NyCee saw the dentist today and am I pleased to report she did not damage her permanent teeth or nerves. Praise God!


Every day on the drive home, NyCee exclaims, "Mommy, Merry Christmas Lights!" I have attempted to explain the difference but then she just responds with "Why?" I am not sure when this "why" phase began but it needs to come to an abrupt halt.

Monday Madness

I must re-iterate to my children the importance of not participating in sickness and drama. Last Monday, I had to leave work because Tyler had a fever of 102 degrees. After waiting at the doctor's office for 2 hours, which we never do, she prescribed Amoxicillin for a "slight" ear infection. He is much better.

Today, I had to leave work to take him to see the surgeon. The surgeon is very nice and that visit lasted less than 1 hour. His surgery will be scheduled after the New Year.

Okay, he is situated.



NyCee was able to go to daycare today. She spent most of the time showing off the injury rather than feeling the effects of it. She has an appointment with the dentist in the morning.

I could literally sleep for a week as I am so tired. Thankfully, her appointment is at 940a so we can sleep in for an extra hour or so in the morning.

Sunday Smackdown

Well, this morning we got up and got dressed for church. Ate breakfast and out the door--no problems there.

We arrived at church and both kids were checked into King's Castle.--No problem there.

I proceeded to the sanctuary, grabbed a seat and waited for praise and worship to begin--no problems there.

I enjoyed praise and worship and just as the offering receptacles were passing by, I received a text message to report to King's Castle--problem there.

I reported to NyCee's room and learned she had fallen and busted her lip. But one of my weekend co-workers told me, "her tooth is pushed back." And sure enough.

My co-worker told me NyCee didn't cry but she (the co-worker) noticed NyCee holding the ice to her tooth versus her lip.

So, I left Tyler at church and went one block up the road to the Urgent Care Center. NyCee is fine and the tooth is not loose. But I have to find a pediatric dentist to ensure the root was not damaged.

Looking at the positive side: It is a baby tooth and would have fallen out anyway. So she will not have any damage to her permanent teeth or smile.

And, Christmas photos where already taken.

Up He Sits

Tyler has been practing sitting up. While he is still cannot lift himself to the sitting position, he has grown fond of being upright. Usually, I just put him on the floor on a blanket and let him play. Lately, he has been rolling all over the place. For example, last night, I placed him on the blanket while I decorated the Christmas Tree. When I turned around, he was nearly under the tree!

NyCee seems to like the fact that he can sit up as well. She enjoys plays with him and often invites him to watch Dora or Blue's Clues with her. The picture below lacks sharpness and precision. (I need a new camera. The one I have is cheap so pictures rarely turn out nice. But it was free-so I do not complain.)But, I tried to capture this kiss to freeze the moment in time.

Step 1

Saturday, I took the night off from my weekend job to grocery shop and pick up the kids' Christmas items. Everything went very smoothly and I did not wait in any long lines.

I found a Christmas tree at Kmart for $40. So last night after church, I put the kids to bed and put the tree together. I thought it would be a nice surprise for NyCee when she woke up this morning. And it was. (Side thought: She was in my room yesterday looking for her house slippers and discovered her Dora table and chairs set under my bed. She bounced up and exclaimed, "Mommy, Dora. Dora. Can I play with Dora?" Of course, I had to play it off as if I didn't know what she was talking about. Thankfully, she has forgotten about it.)

Anyway, returning to the story. NyCee has made a couple of Christmas Tree ornaments at church and has been asking to put them on the tree for days. So I told her we would decorate the tree when she came home from "school." I even remembered to call my father this morning and ask how to put the lights on the tree.

We arrived home and sat down to dinner. Before receiving her after dinner treat, NyCee decided she would have a tantrum. As the consequence for that decision, she did not recieve her treat and we were unable to decorate the tree as I will not reward or tolerate bad behavior. So, we will try to get the tree decorated on Thursday. I managed to complete the first two tasks: out of the box and assembled.




I think it a really cute tree for $40. It's nice and full. You can not see the stick in the middle. I am sure it will be fabulous when it's decorated.

A Simple Prayer Answered

Today, a new guy started at work whose name is Greg. He secured the position due to a vacancy which resulted from a resignation. From a simple resignation, many prayers were answered.

Unbeknownst to each of us, Greg and I interviewed for the position that I have at the same time. Of course, I was selected for the initial opening. Since my arrival, three (3) openings have become available.

I did not like working 8-5p. Today, my manager offered me the 730a-430p time slot. Of course, I jumped at it. So my prayer was answered. Yes, it is only a 30 minute time difference but that 30 minutes makes a BIG difference.

Due to the vacancy, Greg was offered the position that he really wanted but was offered to me. Both prayers were answered. I work an earlier shift and Greg got the position he really wanted. God's timing is impeccable.

I am constantly amazed by God. He always takes care of everything.

"Aren't five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten in God's sight. Indeed, the hairs of your head are all counted. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows!"

Luke 12:6-7(Holman Christian Standard Bible)

A Full Week Completed

This was my first FULL week of working full-time. I started the job on a Tuesday and my second week was Thanksgiving week. Wednesday the schedule caught up with my body. I sat down on the couch for a moment to try and get some energy and woke up to the sound of my phone alerting.

I told myself that I would lay down for about 2 hours to re-charge and then wake up to complete my schoolwork. When I woke up it was 500a--time to rise and shine. So needless to say, I was pretty pooped.

Work is progressing well. I really like the job. The atmosphere is very comfortable and my VP even commented that I fit right in as if I had been there all the time. I think the way cases are processed is a little odd but hey, I just go with it. For example, when I conclude an investigation, I have to get VP approval before I can issue discipline. That is strange to me. Discharge, yes. Discipline, I should have the authority to execute. But again, whatever!

I have been working for 12 days and have managed to close 4 cases, administer one discharge, process 3 written warnings and 1 termination warning. WOW! It's like riding a bicycle. Once you learn, you never forget how to do it.

As for the kids, NyCee is talking more and more everyday. She is a funny little girl with the comments she makes. She has learned a new phrase, "Good stuff Mommy!" (I wonder where she picked up that statement.-HA!)



Tyler is getting big and finally sleeping in his own bed all night. When he goes to sleep at 730p, he is in his bed. But when he wakes up around 1230p or so, I would just put him in the bed with me so that I could go back to sleep. BAD! BAD! I know but hey, I am doing the best I can.

The pile of laundry was finally ironed and put away. Of course, a new pile is in it's place. Only 2 weeks of school remaining. Of course, my Internet has been hit or miss this week. I am so far behind on my school work this week because I can't log into class. The work will be completed, the final grades posted, and my degree conferred. So, as I like to say, "no worries."

15 days and counting....

There are 15 days remaining until I am finish with my graduate program. And I am really counting the days. I am so tired of school work! Good Gravy! But I can see the finish line ahead.

My Internet services sucks and works when it wants to. Thus, it is making it challenging for me to complete my final two projects. One professor granted an extension. I have not received a response from the other yet.

You know what? I will complete all that I can by Friday for submission. I can not stress myself out over it.

I constantly pray for strength. Working two jobs, completing two classes, raising two children alone is no joke! But God gives me the grace to run my race and thankfully He holds everything together for me.

The blog postings will be few over the next couple of weeks as I try to focus my energy on completing school. Hang in there with me.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
Phillipians 4:13